Wednesday, August 22, 2007

...and Nineteen!

No, I haven't had a setback! I'm still celebrating 20 months of A.D. life and doing well (scored over 400 points in Scrabble against a whole-brained person). This "nineteen" refers to nineteen years of wedded bliss! It was an anniversary that I didn't think I'd be able to see when I was initially diagnosed, but people told me to ignore the statistics, and they were right. My mom said that if I hang in there for our twentieth wedding anniversary she wants to send us to Hawaii.

Our nineteenth wedding anniversary was on Monday, but in typical fashion we made it a long celebration. On Saturday Prince Jared spent the entire day cleaning our bedroom, which was really nice! I walked in and wondered if he had built a bigger room!

On Sunday we had an anniversary-themed dinner with my dad and stepmom. I decorated the dining room with my wedding gown and temple dress and pictures and flowers and stuff. We put a small television in the room and played our wedding video during the dinner. It's always so fun to see that happy young couple at a time when we figured we had just made it to Happily-Ever-After, and we had no idea what challenges we would face together. Luckily we've weathered all the storms of our life so far by clinging together. It's always nice to be married to your best friend.

We had a family night/double-date night with the kids Monday evening, and saw Hairspray at a dinner theater place. I thought one of the songs was especially appropriate for our anniversary state of mind:

You're Timeless To Me
(just some snippets of it, at least!)

You're like a stinky old cheese, babe
Just gettin' riper with age
You're like a fatal disease, babe
But there's no cure
So let this fever rage

Some folks can't stand it
Say time is a bandit
But i take the opposite view
Cause when i need a lift
Time brings a gift
Another day with you

A twist or a waltz
It's all the same schmaltz
With just a change in the scenery
You'll never be old hat
That's that!
You're timeless to me

You're like a rare vintage ripple
A vintage they'll never forget
So pour me a teeny virgin triple
And we can toast the fact we ain't dead yet!

I can't stop eating
Your hairline's receding
Soon there'll be nothing at all
So, you'll wear a wig
While i roast a pig
Hey! Pass that Geritol

You're like a broken down Chevy
All you need is a fresh coat of paint

And you got me goin' hot and heavy
You're fat and old, but baby, boring you ain't!

Some folks don't get it
But we never fret it
'Cause we know that time is our friend
It's plain to see
That you're stuck with me
Until the bitter end...

You'll always hit the spot
Big shot!
You're timeless to me

You'll always be du jour
Mon amour
You're timeless to me

You'll always be first string
You're timeless to me

It's been a while since I added a song to my blog soundtrack, and I thought this one was pretty cute!

On Tuesday my dad and stepmom watched the kids, so we could go to the temple and out to dinner. At the temple we did proxy sealings, which is a nice way to relive our own marriage sealing in the Salt Lake Temple. The ceremony is almost similar, so we make it a tradition to go and do that every year. It's kind of like our own way of renewing our vows and being reminded of the blessings that are pronounced upon a couple who is sealed for time and all eternity. It's nice to really be "timeless" to each other.

After the temple we headed off to our anniversary dinner spot, which is Randy's Steakhouse in Frisco. We discovered this place ten years ago, and have gone there for our anniversary every year since. It is a very romantic setting in a restored historical home, with a piano bar and more dining rooms added on throughout the years. Randy himself cuts each steak before it is cooked, and then he strolls through the restaurant, making friends with the customers as they dine. He congratulated us heartily and treated us to lemon chiffon cake. We had our typical fabulous super-tender 8 oz filet, and we reminisced about the many changes that have taken place over the past ten years since we had our first dinner there.

Back then we had two beagles and no kids, we lived in the third of five homes we have had since moving to our town nearly twelve years ago, and we worked for different companies than we do now. My parents had just divorced, and we thought that was the worst thing that would ever happen to us. The extent of our infertility, miscarriage, and adoption adventures were yet unknown at that time. Cancer was something that only happened to other, older people, as far as we were concerned.

Life has turned out very differently than it looked back then. In some ways it was bad, in other ways it was good, but through both good and bad we have been blessed. John Lennon was right: "Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans."

As it turned out, my parents' divorce caused us to reinforce and fortify our still-happy marriage. This prepared us for the onslaught of infertility, which usually attacks all the vital parts of a marriage. We emerged from heartbreaking experiences stronger instead of broken. We learned that our greatest blessings came in unexpected packages, and that thorny ways did lead to joyful ends.

That experience taught us to trust completely in the Lord, because his thoughts and ways are higher than our ways, and if we let him be in charge of the blessings and how they come about, they end up being a lot better than what we could come up with on our own. From a practical standpoint, it also taught us important medical information, so we were being prepared both spiritually and physically for our next adventure: cancer. Who knows what is next, but we know that whatever it is, we will be prepared.

Luckily many more surprises were fun. Stuff we never expected, but love, include:
- the house we live in today
- the huge expansion of the area between our house and Randy's Steakhouse, with loads of shopping and fun things to do
- adopting two kids, including one of a different race who fits right in
- spending time together on Capitol Hill, lobbying for adoption tax credits
- new karate belts
- resurrected clogging duets
- becoming a chief executive, then retired, and later self-employed
- becoming an author
- becoming part of the Mary Kay family
- Messiah duets
- teaching voice lessons
- reuniting with friends and family
- discovering a passion for genealogy work and learning cool stuff about my ancestry
- being alive long after my expiration date, and keeping my quality of life

and on and on and on!

It's been a good ten years since our first dinner at Randy's. It's been a good nearly quarter of a century since our first date. It's been a great nineteen-year "permanent date" since the day we were married. Very different than expected, but nevertheless very blessed, with much to look forward to.


Faith said...

Congratulations! I'm glad you're doing so well physically and glad you made it to the 19th of many more anniversaries. :)

Victoria said...

Congratulations! We just celebrated our 19th this month too! :) Sounds you both had a wonderful day.

I have enjoyed reading your blog, hope you do not mind.

Hugs, Victoria